Oh boy. We are done. Done for now. Pardon the time lapse between this post and that of Day Two, we were busy recovering/cleaning/cleaning/sanitizing/recovering. Since the twins have graced our lives, we’ve never had a more rough few days than the three days we tried potty training them. Tried and failed. Yep, we’re back to diapers.
Anthony had three and half days off of work so we expected to use all that time training and we did, but now those days are over without the results we were hoping for and he’s back to work today which leaves me and the three tots alone and heck if I’m going to nurse a babe, cook, mother, and clean up potty all the day alone. Not.Happening.
It feels a little like we wasted three days and I’m really, really bummed that the girls didn’t train like we had hoped and thought. However, we learned a lot and I think we definitely planted a few seeds about using the pot. I’ve mentioned this before, but we purchased and followed the ebook, 3 Day Potty Training by Lora Jensen. I read the book a few times before we started, made notes, and relayed everything to Anthony. During the three days we trained we followed Lora’s instructions to a T. We used positive reinforcement and no matter how many times we wanted to slam our fists through a wall, we flashed smiles and encouragement to the girls at all times. They didn’t see an ounce of negativity in three days. We followed them around everywhere, we told them to let us know when they needed to go, we caught 98% of their accidents and ran them to the toilet during those accidents (that one left a nice picture in your mind, didn’t it?) It was misery for all but no one ever said potty training was fun, right?
Poor Sebastian was neglected (the number one reason why we should’ve gotten another person on board to help) and spent the majority of the last three days in his swing. Besides the emotional stress of trying your darndest to nicely teach your kids that excrement belongs in the toilet, the stress of knowing that I couldn’t cuddle our three month old killed me. I missed him so much.
Potty training brought out the worst in me. I’m a pretty positive person but when I wasn’t within a five foot radius of both twins at all times (a must with the three day method), so during naptimes, I was exhausted and perched next to their bedroom door while they slept listening for any signs that one needed to ‘go’ and browsing Instagram where I wanted to comment “you suck”, “you suck”, “you suck”, “you suck” on all my followee’s pictures because everyone was happily living life and I was stuck cleaning up gallons of pee (and that is probably more literal than figurative).
Anyway, it’s over. Life is back to normal and I love all my Instagram friends again so I’ll not focus on the misery but on what we took away from the crappy experience (more figurative than literal thank God).
[I know you’re dying to see pictures of my kids in their skivvies, so I’ll just keep on postin’.]
The girls can be potty trained. It is possible at their age – 22 months. They learned how to hold it. They know how to control it. The first day was spent cleaning up accidents because they’d just release not knowing what they hay was happening. Day two was different. We pumped them full of liquid that they gladly drank but they became afraid of having accidents so they held it until they couldn’t hold it anymore. They learned to tell us when they had to go – they’d run to us and get all panicky and want to be held. But, here’s the kicker, every time we set them on the toilet they’d throw a FIT. Seraphia actually did pretty well on the morning of day two until she observed Cecilia throw a fit on the toilet and decided she’d do the same. It wasn’t that they were afraid of the toilet. If we set them on it and handed them a book, they’d be perfectly fine and would sit there reading. For some odd reason, they just didn’t want to release into the dark abyss below.
In the end, we learned that not every method, not matter how many successes it touts, works for every kid. Lora says you should never say “no” or “bad” and I agree and disagree. Seraphia responds pretty well to “no” when we say it upon her doing something we’d like her not to. She’ll stop and move on. Saying “no” to her when she goes to the bathroom on the floor would probably resonate well. Cecilia on the other hand seems to think that the word “no” signals a game. She’ll give us a wry smile, continue doing whatever it is she’s not supposed to being doing and laugh in our faces. You can imagine how she’d react then if we told her no peeing on the floor…actually, don’t imagine it because…yuck. Saying “bad” to either girl however would probably make them think that peeing is bad in general, no matter what or where.
Anyway, I know that if you haven’t already clicked off that I’m boring you to death talking about human excrement so leave the rest of my thoughts to myself. Our goal is to have the girls potty-trained within the next few months and so, when success finds its way to us, I’ll let you know how we achieved it. Until then, it’s back to the 20+ diaper-changes-per-day grindstone which I will gladly take over the nightmare of our first experience with potty training. :)
If you have any tips or tricks that got your kid from diaper to pot, please leave them in the comment section or email me!! I’m not going to say that we’re desperate but we just might be…a little bit.
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P.S. One little tidbit of info I did pick up – I bought size 4 toddler undies for the girls even though they’re barely in size 2T because they were literally half the price and we needed 30 pairs for training. After washing them and drying them on high heat they shrank a little and, even though they didn’t fit tight, they worked perfectly!